The Quest for “Happily Ever After”
It’s the time of the year again when people bid goodbye to Christmas trees and say hello to love letters and paper-cut hearts. February is all about finding love and I couldn’t help but think about what people have to go through for the “happy ending” they deserve. At the same time, I slowly realized how language learners have to go through similar stages before they reach success. I am not expert on love but I do know a thing or two about the English language. So, if you’re new and clueless about language learning (or even love), this blog’s for you…
The 5 Stages of Language Learning:
Do you remember your first encounter with the English language? Do you remember how you felt the first time your grade school teacher started uttering the most peculiar-sounding words in front of the whole class? From that day on, you would forcibly sit in the front row and listen as the teacher discussed about a subject that had no significance at all for you. Grown-ups would tell you that you would soon understand and appreciate its value when you become older. And that someday, it would play a crucial part in your life and not just merely a class you have to pass in school.
After years of convincing yourself that the English language is not for you, you will eventually yield and accept its importance in your life. There may even be a sense of regret for not seeing its worth from the very beginning. Realizing that some people are already achieving their goals and getting ahead of you may frustrate you at first. Meeting people who can express themselves confidently in English can intimidate you and give you a feeling of hopelessness. “How much time do I have left?” or “Is it too late for me?”– these are the questions you will ask yourself relentlessly.
As time passes by, your frustration will turn into motivation. You will realize that self-development has no time-limit or age restrictions. You will build a strong interest and curiosity on something you once avoided a long time ago. And then the searching begins! You will start looking for the best resources or even institutions that will help you hone your English communication skills. Finding the best won’t be easy for it’s always a ‘trial and error’ process. If you’re determined and patient enough, your “perfect match” will come knocking on your door and you don’t even have to break a sweat.
Have you ever had that fear of losing something that’s crucial in your life? Or maybe failing at one thing you’ve always wanted to succeed in? After finding the perfect school for you, you will normally begin to overthink and stress yourself. “Can I do this?” “Is my English good enough?”– this is what happens when you start letting fear creep into your head. What’s worse is that you may even start comparing yourself with other learners. Nonetheless, you have to realize that it’s normal to feel that way. Every successful person had to start from scratch or maybe fail at some point in order to discover (and accept) not only his strengths but his weaknesses as well.
It’s true when people say that when you do something out of passion, amid all the trials, everything will pay off in the end. Learning English is truly an uphill climb. You will experience a lot of ups and downs until you finally reach genuine happiness and contentment. There will be no more hesitations but only pure confidence in expressing yourself. Connecting to people through English communication will no longer be a burden but rather an opportunity to broaden your horizons. You will thank yourself for taking a risk and for believing that it’s never too late to fight for your ambition.
If you’re one of the few who are lucky enough to have found love, then I’m pretty sure you have gone through the same phases as well. Trying out something for the first time is always terrifying, for you’re always uncertain of how the ending will be. But as what most storybooks would say, if it’s really meant for you and is what your heart truly desires, it will someday lead you to your own version of a “happily ever after.”
Photos courtesy: Google